Tell me it was good that I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years.?

It was pretty simple, for the past two years I have been very direct about wanting to get married and have children. He said he wanted the same things. Unfortunately after we would have these conversations he would come down with amnesia and forget about planning for a marriage, a house and children. He made all sorts of demands like a special proposal and a ring (that I didn't want) that he failed to follow through on. It was six months between ring shopping trips and another 8 months before he purchased. So I would break down every 4-6 months saying that I didn't really think that he wanted this. He would get angry say he loved me and that I wasn't patient enough. That I didn't trust him. It made me crazy. I would cry and yell and then apologize and 6 months later it would be just the same. The last fight we had he left after he told me he was going to propose the night before but he was deterred by a mood shift. It felt like a lie and I called him on it. I'm devasted!Tell me it was good that I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years.?
sweetie you did the RIGHT THING. you should have done it sooner but better late than never. this man may love you but he is not in LOVE with YOU and the fact that he kept changing the plans that YOU set should have been enough but when a woman is focused on what she wants nothing else matters. he was not ready for what you wanted and he didnt want to tell you than. so sweetie please know that you made the best decision of your life, although it may not feel like that now but please know you should never have to give a man an ultimatum or trick him into marrying you or having kids with you. if he really really loves you he will do it without hesitation. GodBless
It sounds like he may have been a bit bipolar, seriously it was the right thing to do to leave him and I'm a guy saying this stuff.Tell me it was good that I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years.?
you did the right thing for you. you never know, perhaps you two are meant to be together... just not now. Go on with your life and don't "pressure/or push" the situation
Try to not be so devistated.. try and look at this as a total blessing... Your life would be a sentence of the same crap.. non commitment , putting you off til he grows a pair ..

You don't want that or need that.. you need to love yourself enough to follow your gut and know the gut is right on.. You will survive..

You will be better for the experience..

I promiseTell me it was good that I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years.?
You did the right thing. If he was unable to be consistent or honest or whatever his problem was in dealing with this conflict.... then he will try to deal with other problems in that manner.... it will suck to build a future with someone like that.
it sounds like if he did want the same things you wanted, he wanted them at a different pace. i understand what you're going through, i've been with my boyfriend for over 6 yrs and he hasn't asked either, we have gotten into several arguments. 3 weeks ago, we didn't talk for days because the subject of engagement came up. i can't tell you that it was the best decision or the worst decision, but i do know that men hate feeling rushed. just give yourself some time to sort everything out. good luck