Anyways, last year his mother passed away. Him and my mother were talking after finding out a few weeks later about her death, and she told him she remembered him saying, "I hate my mom I'm so glad I'm away from her, I wish she were dead." He remembers my mom saying this, but he has 0 recollection of saying it, and he feels horrible about it. It's been 1 year and he can't get over it, because he NEVER had these feelings about his mother. And I can tell you with my life on the line, my parents DON'T lie. So he basically can't remember saying it.
The second thing happened last night. Sometime in the night, somebody peed in a bottle and left it on the coffee table without a cap, too. Obviously my dad would NEVER do that (they're really clean freaks big time) and mom and I just... don't have the "skill" to do that, lol. My immediate thought was BF, so I asked him, and he doesn't remember it at all. We talked for 2 hours about it, and that's when he told me about what happened between him and my mom.
Now I'm worried he has some sort of disorder mentally... he did say as a child he used to be locked in his room by his parents, so he had to pee in bottles and it became a normal thing for him. But that was over 10 years ago.
Could he be repressing memories, or thoughts, or... something? Any insight is so so so appreciated!BF seems to be suffering amnesia of some sort... help?
eevee, as college students you both have access to health care on campus, as part of your tuition. He needs to see a doctor, who will very probably refer him to counseling.
A lapse of memory is one thing, but re-creating one of the things you did as an abused child and not recalling it suggests he needs professional help.
You can support him emotionally during his recovery.BF seems to be suffering amnesia of some sort... help?
Dissociation, not amnesia, especially since he was abused as a child.
Now that the abuser is gone and he's in a safe place, the trauma, repressed memories, etc, will naturally start to come forth. He may end up with ptsd, I did.
He may soon experience nightmares, flashbacks, panic attacks, realizing he can't remember cig chunks of childhood, etc.
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